Sunday, June 26, 2011

A Great Relationship and Marriage Takes Knowledge and Common Sense and Uncommon Knowledge, Not Rocket Science

A reader letter proclaims what I’ve been telling readers since day one – this isn’t rocket science, and any man who is worth his salt can do it – and he gives examples that will raise eyebrows, so don’t miss this!

I keep getting letters from people in the same jam – living apart, divorce pending, and basically in deep manure – and wanting to know if what I’m teaching in "THE Man’s Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" can help them.

I keep saying, “Yes, if you’ll just do what the book says,” and they do, things get better, and I hear from them later thanking me, often with details of their successes that provide wonderful tips for me to share with the rest of you. I got such a letter today that I want to share with you. The name has been changed to protect his privacy; we’ll call him “Garrold.” Here’s an excerpt from Garrold’s first letter to me the day he bought "THE Man’s Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," three months ago:

My wife of 10 years and I are reconciling after a two year separation. We still live apart, but are getting along better. We're taking it slow, but I would like to get back the intimacy we had before. I don't want to come right out and say it because it might ruin the moment and it won't be as special if it just happens. Hopefully your book will give me some insights for doing the right things at the right times to get us back on track, and in the sack :}. This means the world to me. Not just for ourselves, but for our children too.

Did you catch that absence? They’ve been living apart for two years. What you don’t see here is that his wife is a very old-school “girly girl” who is ultra-cautious, ultra-sensitive, and makes a man earn every second of her attention, and will resist having what she wants in order to make sure it’s safe to share with him. Now get a look at him today in this excerpt:

Hello David. Garrold here. Listen, I know you're having a busy day on the grill and all. So please don't respond to this email. I just wanted to share a quick success, and give kudos to you.

You know, the stuff you preach is not rocket science. It is common sense. But the effects are more astounding than the lunar mission.

OK. Last night we had our date night. First stop, a wedding for my cousin.

I took your advice and grabbed her for some slow dancing. Pow! She was all into it my man. I feel like an idiot but it took me ten years to realize how much she likes this...and how much I like it. Throw in a little ass pinching during picture time, and a few other bits of naughty made for a great time. Then we went our own way for some late night gambling. She was leaning into me all night. We were definitely connected. And she was very happy. Lots of great kissing too. Some leg rubbing, and I'll stop there. I know I moved her to intimacy in a manly way. And she appreciated it.

David, your naughty approach is something EVERY man absolutely needs. And the more I think about it, it is how I was when my wife and I met. I just didn't realize I was doing it and how effective it was. Somewhere along the line, I just stopped teasing her. But never again. It's give her naughty or give the marriage death.

Again and again, I can't tell you how fortunate I am to have found your eBook, and to have your invaluable guidance. It's made a difference in our marriage, and our lives.

Have a great Memorial Day pal.
Garrold


Did you catch all that? If I had read this letter and not known that Garrold is my age, I’d have sworn a horny teenager had written the description of their night out, except the teenager would have bragged about all the action instead of being a gentleman like Garrold and stopping before it got into what folks like to call “too much information” today. But take a close look…

Slow dancing, ramping up the intimacy, then some discreet teasing sexual gestures to build up the tension even further, then what, the proposition? Hell NO! Garrold got it right! He backed off the tension and took her into a casino to laugh and play and give those sexy and romantic images of the dancing, touching, rubbing, pinching (PINCHING! Politically incorrect yet totally effective if done right at the right time in a way that is shocking and playful but not painful or disrespectful!), etc., stew in her mind and let her ramp herself up for a while, not to mention let her notice that he was in total control of himself, not desperate and pushy at all, but rather knowing that he could have her at any moment and giving her the gift of letting her enjoy the anticipation of what was to come.

Garrold is an average guy in a lot of ways. He’s middle-aged, fairly well-mannered, above average intelligence, has worked at a trade that men have engaged in for thousands of years long enough to master it (I’ve seen his work and he has indeed mastered it!), and he works alone in his own shop as a craftsman doing custom work. And, as you can see from his letters, he loves his wife and kids.

Another thing you can see from his letters is the thing I’ve been telling all of you since day one: Being a real man that women crave is something that we are all born able to do. The problem is that most of us are programmed from birth to do everything but what comes natural. We’re taught to be “nice” to women and ignore their sexuality and our own. We’re taught that it’s wrong to joke and cut up with women because they’re “pure and proper and don’t appreciate men who act imprudent.” We’re taught to buy their affection because we won’t get it otherwise (often by the same people who tell us not to buy the affection of prostitutes – go figure!).

And what really sucks the most is that in large part, it’s OUR MOTHERS who taught us this! If they had ever once looked at how what they were teaching us would make them feel they’d have fallen to their knees begging for forgiveness, because they were teaching us to be as boring and frustrating to our wives as their husbands were to them!

Remember that, Baby Boomers? Dad came home from his job at the factory, and everybody had to be ready for dinner when he hit the door, then after dinner Dad watched TV or read the newspaper (and often drank too much) while Mom cleaned up the kitchen, helped the kids with homework, got the kids to bed, and collapsed exhausted. No wonder she gave us such crappy advice about girls!

Like Garrold said, it’s not rocket science. It’s simple, stark reality, and when you put away decades of bad programming and swallow that Matrix-esque red pill and embrace reality, that we are born different and those differences can complement each other and make our lives better for the sharing of them, it’s not magic that follows, but it certainly feels like magic! And unless you can “look at another man’s hairy ass and find love” (I miss comedian Sam Kinnison!), you can do this.

It’s really just that easy, and if you just do what I ask you to do, your success is really just that certain to follow. It’s followed for everyone who has tried it to date. In baseball, if a guy finishes the season batting .333, he’s a super-star, and this information is batting 1.000!!!

For some it will take a week or two, for others it will take a month or two, and for a few others in the toughest of circumstances, it might take another month or two beyond that, but it will happen. I’m so sure of it I put a guarantee of a whole year on the product! Men on every continent except Antarctica have bought and are using this book, and Garrold’s letter above is VERY typical of what I receive from those who do use it, and there’s a thread on our forum, http://forum.makingherhappy.com, right now, by a guy who saw a marked change in his wife’s behavior toward him in less than two weeks. Stop by and check it out. And check out “Cyno’s” threads while you’re there, too. See just how easy and profound change can be, and how it can take you places you didn’t expect, even places that make you realize that you’re better than the relationship you’ve settled for.

Yeah, yeah, I know I sound like a broken record. And as long as men are as thick-skulled as we all seem to be, I’m going to keep right on repeating it until it soaks in. You wouldn’t take off on a drive across a desert with just enough fuel and water to get you across, would you? Even a minor mishap could be the end of your life. Yet every man alive enters a relationship with a woman having less than enough to get him to the end of the relationship with every expectation of being able to last a lifetime. Why? Are we just that freaking daft?

Nope. It’s just that much bad programming. We can’t see how ill-equipped and under-supplied we are. We just know that somehow people before us made it and we might make it, too, so we take a leap of faith and risk our future on hope instead of preparedness. Well, now that things are in perspective, don’t you think it might be a good idea to fill those relationship water and gas cans before some minor mishap ends your marriage?

Go ahead. Fill them up at my risk. Go to http://www.makingherhappy.com and download your copy of "THE Man’s Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." It’s sitting there waiting on you, which leaves you two choices next time something blows up in your face: you can either do what you’ve learned to do to handle it and turn the blow-up into an opportunity to make your relationship better, or you can sit and watch your relationship swirl the drain as you frantically search for the right words and end up making yet another in a long chain of relationship-killing mistakes. Don’t wait for the explosion. Choose now, and choose well…because this time it just might be for all the marbles.

In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham

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