Saturday, June 19, 2010

Reader Responses: Women Confirm What They Want from the Man in Their Relationship or Marriage

The “spin machine” is turning out articles on “beta males” and other forms of wussy guys right and left, and they seem to be ignoring the only factor that matters: What women REALLY want! Keep reading…

For some time, I’ve been receiving letters from readers asking about the popularity of so-called “beta males” in the popular press; soft, jelly-legged figures like Al Gore and Hugh Grant gaining the spot light while real alpha male leaders are deemed “alpha dogs” and anachronisms. Nice try, press guys and screenwriters, but you forgot something…

Women hate that crap! Yeah, they might listen, they might empathize, they might feel some emotional connection that wins a vote or makes them buy a movie ticket, but that’s the kind of guy they want to SHOP WITH, not be led by, not have heading their household (and sorry feminists, but alpha males DO head the household, and men who do not are punished as their wives’ boredom mounts and brings discord, celibacy, affairs, and finally divorce), and certainly not wanting to have sex with!

Think I’m kidding? Check out what one of your fellow readers has reported in the last 24 hours:

Hey David,

Wanted to respond to your recent series of emails. Great reading for sure. I wanted to provide proof to everyone that what you say is true.

I had a woman look at my online profile recently. What caught my attention is what she said her ideal mate was. Take a look :

"I'm looking for power... strength of mind, body and soul... Someone comfortable with themselves and knows they have nothing to prove, but proves everything with the way they carry themselves. That's someone special. Is it you?"

This is a nutshell version of an alpha male if I ever saw it. It's even better if women can articulate it like this one has.

Take care and keep up the great work,


Any questions? And no, this is not an isolated response. You can see this desire as a common thread on any local version of Craig's List or any other dating or marriage site where women are leaving personals ads or speaking openly about their needs, desires or dreams. Indeed, I interviewed 208 women for the research for the first draft of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" and of the 188 who were in the couples who completed that research, ALL of them gave the same basic description of the man they wanted.

The other 20 were single, and along with this same description, they also had a few romantic notions of adventure, etc., that were still fresh on their minds because they were in the dating world and looking for it. The women on our forum,, have also spoken of what they want, and in addition to the alpha male characteristics mentioned above, it turns out that being a REALLY great kisser and having an inner child but knowing how to control that inner child appropriately are also a very big deal. Fun and adventure are great, and requisite, but not when your fun and adventure consists of wasting the evening in front of a computer screen playing video games while you’re wife sits in the next room bored to tears.

So not just “no,” but “Hell no!” This isn’t isolated, nor is it non-representative. The only women who are wanting beta males are those who are so predatory or otherwise screwed up that they want to CONTROL a man, not love and respect him.

So who are you going to listen to? A bunch of reporters and fiction writers with an agenda of grabbing attention? Or a bunch of women who not only know what they want but incidentally agree 100% in a crowd that they ALL want it, and whose agenda is full disclosure so they can have a better man???

I STRONGLY suggest you listen to the women. Especially now that there are slight stirrings in the press by female readers referring to the advent of the “retrosexual,” a cry for the return of strong leading men on the screen (such as the recent return of Indiana Jones!) and alpha males in their lives, the way it used to be before an ill-fated wave of wussitude swept across the world and castrated most of our gender.

And I’ll make it easy for you, almost TOO easy. What they said, and what we later proved they really wanted, not to mention how to give it to them without kissing their butts and turning them off, is presented in my book, "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," and you can download your copy at right now with a few mouse clicks. Take advantage of the facts while you have them available, before the popular press manages to obscure them and leaves you with one of those bad ideas like that nonsense of crying at chick-flicks like we did in the 1980’s. Life is short, so set yourself up to enjoy it.

In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham

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